“With Kristi [second analyst], it was much, much deeper. This whole dependent and infantile part of me was coming out. This is psychoanalytic language – I was moving into a regression that was terrifying, because I had been trained by my mother, and it was my nature, and it was what had worked for me…

“Some time ago, I realized that there was such a thing for me as experiencing my patients as being friends, but they were psychoanalytic friends. It was a psychoanalytic friendship that was quite unique and unlike any other friendship. I think that’s what people are talking about when they write about psychoanalytic love. It’s not…

“This really is the full motivation for my having written the memoir. I want people to know what the process is like; not only what the process is like but what the feelings are that don’t really make you think of psychoanalysis as a way of changing your life. We’re just living and hoping that…

“I think that the comparison [between political and erotic passions]  is related to the danger of transgressing boundaries from the side of the analyst. It’s not totally the same, but it’s because of the emotions and the danger of being too much involved as an analyst, if you don’t pay attention to what is happening…

“I was quite protective of the parent reader while I was editing this. I feel that so many of the books out there on the shelf have a real kind of finger wagging quality to parents. They kind of tell parents what to do, what not to do, mostly what they’re doing wrong. I  felt…

“I have had quite some reactions to the article [on their psychoanalyses]. I was also telling Mauro and my colleagues that out of quite a number of articles I’ve published on maybe more pressing issues in the field of cancer research, for example, brain tumor research that I’ve spent quite some time with, I think…

“I really think that the purpose is to make space for the unknown, uncertainty, and for our kind of humility in the face of the complexity of our belonging to the physical world. So it’s our animality, our physicality, all of that is so complicated and difficult to grapple with. The unknown is uncontrollable and…

“The subject of affairs, I think it’s of interest to everybody. We have all had an Oedipal experience – we’ve all been babies that have at some point realized that we are not the only person. We’re not perfectly fused with our mother, and that she has other things to do, and there may be…

“Now’s the time to tell that wonderful story of the little boy. He was about two or three years old, and he went in the icebox to get some milk, and he managed to get this big carton and spill it all over the floor. Now, needless to say, there’d be a lot of parents…

“In the analysis, the place where you face the experience of otherness, of foreignness, of the unconscious that goes through you, it doesn’t appear as knowledge. Of course, in an analysis, you get a lot of knowledge, but it’s not an important aspect of an analysis. I think that in the analysis, and that’s the…